Men can't be victims.

I think that's one of the most common examples of batshit idiocy I see in our society today.
I haven't felt much like blogging as of late after the recent loss of my dog two weeks ago, Zahr. Even though no one but Mek is going to read this I feel I may as well ACT like people care. The delusion makes me feel special.
Zahr was only three years old when he literally dropped dead in the yard on Sunday morning. It happened so suddenly and right before we were leaving that the other dogs didn't even realize it; otherwise they would have been over there investigating him and we would have seen something was wrong before we went all the way out there and found he wasn't breathing. We have yet to hear back about the autopsy beyond that they found a mass on his spleen and sent away tests on it.
The day was clouded over and it rained for most of the week after. I like to think God was crying with me. Zahr was a beautiful animal, and though he'd never been a healthy dog, he still had plenty of years left in him if not for this.
Anyway. The show must go on.

I'm meant to be arting at the moment, but in googling a song on the internet I stumbled across this: http://shrink4men.wordpress.com/2009/12/15/you-are-not-a-princess-25-points-for-women-and-men-to-consider/
It contains many, many beautiful truths about the misconceptions women are raised with.
First of all being that a lot of psychotic crap they get off with is perfectly normal for women. If you read the link and other related topics, well, I don't really need to go on about it. It basically covers that stuff where women get to slap men around, talk them down, shut them down, and claim they're insensitive. Which is a load of bull.
Also: FUCKING MIXED SIGNALS, WHAT IS THIS SHIT.

There are three subjects I'm going to bring up on this: the one I just mentioned, about men not being victims. The second will be gender confusion among crossdressers, usually the younger ones(younger as in age, or as in those who have only recently discovered it as a passion). The third is drag as a kink or as a genuine lifestyle.

The first is pretty well covered in the link I provided, but basically: men can be abused, just like women, and they can even be abused BY women. Not just obvious cases such as sexual abuse as a child from a mother or other older woman. But in their adult life in relationships. The link lists slapping, hitting, spitting, and hair-pulling as a few physical examples, but honestly I think those are just more tangible forms of what's really emotional abuse. Not to say that men can't be beat up by women, because they can. But I think emotionally the affects of such abuse are deeper than the actual physical damage, just because, unfortunately, men DO tend to be a bit hardier than women.
When a woman hits a man, it's abuse just as same as him hitting her, but I think what it can do to him mentally is the worst part. Because men are raised to believe they are not allowed to defend themselves. It's like if I were to take home a puppy and beat it and then give it treats for cowering away from me. Later it may grow into a large, very powerful dog, very capable of hurting me and at the least fighting back were I to hurt it. But it won't. It won't even attempt to escape, because it doesn't realize there is something better--for it, there is no other world where it is allowed to fight back. Because the world I have shaped around it is all that there is to a dog.
This is the world society has shaped around men. Women are raised to immediately fight back if a man attempts to hurt them, and I have no beef with this. What gets my hackles up is when women go completely batshit insane because they take the basics of what society calls unacceptable behaviour from a man--physical abuse, disregard of a woman as a human being, etc--and then in their minds they redefine it. What amazes me is that so many women believe that love is more important to them than respect, when they will slap, hit, or apply their foot to a man's shin or groin for a minor offense--not necessarily an encroachment of his love for her, but perhaps what she takes as a sign of disrespect. What women have trouble with is defining the difference between these things, or they consider them to be exactly the same. And they aren't. A man may love a woman and love spending time with her and love the way she inspires him to be a better person, but simply have no respect for what to her might be significant accomplishments in her blogging community or neighborhood reading group. She may love his love and accept his disrespect of those things that are important to her because since they aren't important in what's supposedly a "man's world" then they mustn't really be all that important at all. He would not necessarily love her more if he had respect for these things--in this case it is a matter of some of her interests falling outside of the things he loves her for, and his perspective being somewhat skewed as having been raised a "real man" by society's standards. Other things--her actual personality, the way she straightens his ties before he goes out the door, her snuggling up to him when they sit down to watch movies together--these are what combine to inspire his love for her, because they represent a compatibility in their natures.
It is when a man(or woman) has no respect for their partner at all, or they imagine the other partner has no respect for them, that issues arise. A controlling man becomes physically abusive. A controlling woman may likewise become physically abusive, but the real damage lies in what her physical abuse symbolizes:since a man has been raised to view women as the weaker sex, and physical prowess is raised on a pedestal as a huge symbol in his life to represent what makes him worthy of respect, he is now caught in a situation where he is demeaned in one of the worst ways possible for him. A woman, a biologically weaker being, is beating up on him. But as a man, he is not allowed to hit back, or defend himself--all he can do is back off, back off, back off, apologize, grovel, and beg for forgiveness. Because since he's a man and she's the woman and she's hitting him, well he must have done something wrong.
Obviously there are men who are sensible and rational beings who recognize this when it's batshit insanity, but I think there are a lot more who don't realize how badly their pscyhe is being fucked with. For most men I think you see it happening when a girl dumps him or finds out he's been cheating or some such--in which case I personally feel a slap is well-deserved and isn't likely to do lasting damage. The only situation I would hesitate to see a man do the same thing to a woman for the same grievances is largely out of concern for a woman's actual physical well-being--women are, unfortunately, physically weaker, and a man's slap delivered in anger could do some damage.
Does that mean she doesn't deserve it for cheating on you? No. If she'd do the same to you, she probably does. But I'm not encouraging violence; I'm encouraging you to think about it.
My point is that for men who endure lasting relationships in which this physical abuse is present and constant, or at least frequent, it's a serious mindfuck. You tell them never to hit girls, you tell them they're in the right when they hit you because as women it's their right. But you also tell them that girls are weaker and getting beaten by one defeats their existence as a masculine individual, and that a man who isn't masculine isn't worth shit. So they're caught in a vicious circle. If they're sensible, they'll leave. But if he loves her? Or if he just thinks he loves her? Her controlling habits will only draw him deeper into the madness.
Like I said. It's a mindfuck.

I'll close this off with a bit of statistic. I haven't necessarily checked up on it, but it came up in a published novel, so I'm inclined at the moment to put some faith in its validity.
(If anyone mentions Stephanie Meyer's so-called degree in english literature so help me...)

1 in 3 girls is sexually abused in her own household before she's seventeen.
However, 1 in 6 boys likewise endure sexual abuse as a child.
That's only half as many girls. You hear about women all the time. It used to be the woman's fault, but thanks to serious progression in womens' rights, it is now taken seriously as the deep, fucked up issue it is.
But that also means you still aren't hearing about nearly as many men as there probably are.
Because men can't be victims.

Second thing.
I won't go into this a lot, because I'm aware it isn't anyone's fault, but something I feel like I see a lot and kind of bugs me is when crossdressers are uncertain in their gender's identity and thus will join a wide variety of groups as a member of something they're not actually certain they are. A transsexual MtF may join a drag queen group, or a drag queen may appear in a group for transsexual MtFs. These groups I talk about are what I find on community sites on the internet, like Flickr, ExperienceProject, or even deviantArt. One said "confused" individual actually runs a crossdresser's group on Flickr, but he/she leaves updates about talking to doctors about hormones and transition operations.
Perhaps when he started the group he didn't realize or was still in denial about being transsexual, but at this point, it's pretty confusing for me personally to see a self-proclaimed drag queen with actual breast implants talking about further sex transitioning. I understand that situations change and that gender identity and crossdressing can be indistinct subjects for people starting out on that particular road in self-discovery, but after you HAVE figured yourself out, well, on the internet all I have are the words you publish and the pictures you put up. If you've gone from mere drag queen to having decided you are in fact transsexual, please say so definitely somewhere on your profile or somewhere that will easily be seen. I'm not saying he has to hand his whole group over to someone else--it's obviously important to him/her and they've put a lot of work into it. But for people uncertain about these issues and looking into it for their own sake or others'(or, and I will openly admit it, for certain drag kings looking for possible relationships with drag queens their age...)please try to specify what you are so that this confusion does not spread to people who actually don't know the difference. This could create further ignorance where it could be avoided. I already have people tell me, as if they know me better than me, "Oh, you're a drag king. You're a man in a woman's body/transsexual." I realize this is not meant to be offensive on their part and is due to harmless ignorance; my point is that it's already an issue, and it is easily worsened when these people try to do some research and come across "drag queens" talking about transitioning or transsexuals in the actual general clothes of their genuine sex claiming they're crossdressers(I realize a FtM is capable of being a drag queen, but an MtF is not. She may be biologically male, but putting girl clothes on her body doesn't make her a crossdresser, it makes her your average girl.)
Like I said, I realize people join these groups or name these interests or proclaim these things often when they're in the process of figuring themselves out, so if things change, hey, it happens. But when you are certain of who and what you are, please say so, and if you aren't certain? Let people know you aren't certain. I'm sorry but if you tell me you're a drag queen and I show interest and later you come back and say you're actually an MtF, well, I'm not into women, so I'm going to lose interest. It works the other way too even if you're FtM--mentally female or physically female, neither one can work for me, pre-op or post-op. I'm not attracted to women mentally or physically, even if you were only born female and later changed, and I'm not going to apologize for that. It's just how I am. I'm apologizing for any misunderstanding or emotional hurt it could potentially cause either of us. This isn't just a potential cause of worsening ignorance in people who aren't in the crossdresser/transsexual loop, it can also create mixed signals within the community.

Speaking of mixed signals, on to the third bit. It's important to outline, definitively, whether or not crossdressing is a sexual kink or an actual lifestyle. Some men like bending over for women in the bedroom or being "force-feminized" because every now and then they get off on being dominated. They may call their dominating partner "Mistress" or "Master" or some such as well as enjoy being tied up and being degraded verbally as "bitch" or "slave", etc.
However, other men genuinely wish to be queens as a lifestyle and are merely kinky in the bedroom, just as how some typical feminine women enjoy those same things mentioned above as a fetish. But since men can't be nearly as open about drag as women can, they may introduce these parts of themselves gradually, starting off with it in the bedroom because many women find it creepy or weird, but when put in context as a fetish it may become more understandable to them. This will imply that these things belong only in the bedroom, and a woman who's okay with that may not necessarily be okay with him doing drag around the house all the time.

A friend of mine has a queen boyfriend, and he recently expressed to her his desire to do just that. He wants to be in drag full-time someday with her if/when they live together. She told me she's not shut down to this entirely, but it's something she's not ready for at this point and she and I both were originally under the impression this was largely a sex kink for him, not a lifestyle. She's taking the entire issue very open-mindedly, for which I am proud to call her my friend and help her along with accepting this step-by-step.
He's very lucky to have her.
But another woman who may at first seem accepting of his crossdressing may turn on a man when he opens up about wanting to go full-time. A relationship that otherwise looks healthy and promising may crumble under this issue because of a misunderstanding, or, and I will call this a worse alternative--he may end up forcing himself to conform to gender-traditional roles after all and attempt to "quit the habit" for her sake. Perhaps much of the time he is happy and truly loves her, but he will always know that there is a deeply vital part of himself that she does not accept and will be likewise deeply miserable in his attempts to destroy it for her. It's like clipping a wild bird's wings so you can keep it as a pet and expecting it to be happy because, in the end, it's the woman's happiness that truly matters. Men are always wrong. Women are always in the right. Because the woman is the princess, she is The Wife, and as The Wife she holds over the man absolute authority and rules with an iron fist. If after years of marriage she happens to walk in on him posing in her red cocktail dress and she calls is a hideously wrong perversion of nature, then by God it is exactly that and he has no choice but to put away this sickening devilry to appease her.

A lot of these situations can be avoided by crossdressers who feel the need to eventually go full-time. For men who are all for putting up the bra and heels and "manning up" for their women, well bro, you gotta do what you gotta do. But for those of us who feel the need to embrace this part of ourselves? Listen up.
Don't accidentally lead yourself into relationship disaster by being unclear, on purpose or by mistake, about this part of yourself. If it's a sex kink, tell her it's a sex kink. If it's a lifestyle, tell her it's a lifestyle--don't imply or outright tell her it's a sex kink, or it could end up ruining a relationship and causing you deep emotional pain you both could have avoided. If you feel like you're being unclear? Then make sure you sit her down right now and explain things in detail. If you're uncertain? Well, if you're uncertain about a significant staple in who you are as a person, then you probably shouldn't be looking to hook up seriously in the first place. It's like teenagers in highschool. They go through boyfriends and girlfriends in droves and screw like rabbits. Part of that is hormones, part of that is peer pressure(virgins are socially inacceptable), and part of that is them wallowing in uncertainty of identity and seeking security in a relationship. If you're already with a person and you hit a bump in the road, it's perfectly natural to seek comfort and stability from your wife or husband or boyfriend or girlfriend--in fact it's probably healthier for you to do that than not. But if you're in emotional turmoil and without a partner? You should hold off. Every time. Because you aren't yourself when you're being tossed about by emotions and life crisis--you're a stressed, confused, frightened person who nine times out of ten isn't thinking clearly. People do stupid things for the ones they love--but don't let yourself do stupid things just for the sake of love itself, either because you think life will calm down when you're in a relationship or because everyone and their mother and your mother is telling you to get married already. Chances are you may end up with someone you don't really know or who has the wrong impression of who you are. It will end badly.

Men often complain about women sending mixed signals, but in my experience with drag queens/transsexuals whatever they're saying they are, men are just as capable of doing it. One second I think a guy is happy with his girlfriend and the next he's telling me "if things don't work out" he'd basically like me to cyber with him so he can get off being a bitch in the bedroom. Another guy seems to totally get the drag king thing and then he's telling me it's just a typical teenage rebellious phase and I'll of course like manly men when I'm older. An old highschool friend of three years is fine one week and the next after I've been slicking my hair for a few days he turns totally hostile about the entire issue. A guy who's into drag mentions he'd want to see me dolled up girly now and then as well. I've got nothing against a fem guy for being into fem chicks, but that's a dealbreaker for me. I don't doll up. At all. Ever. The end. It's an issue of humiliation for me.
Mixed signals. Some of these examples aren't entirely relevant, but you get the idea. Issues with drag are already diverse and some are inavoidable for both sexes, so let's save everyone as much trouble as possible and lay it out as clearly as we can, hmm? If you're trans, say you're trans. If you're a queen, say you're a queen. If you aren't certain, say you aren't certain.

I am a teenage drag king. Manly woman. I like girly men. Also, I'm uncompromising as far as the masculinity goes. I want a guy who wants me to be butch all the time as much as I want him to be fem all the time.




-original image from comixed.com found here: http://comixed.memebase.com/2010/04/05/4-koma-comic-strip-any-questions/

This is a great idea

I'm sure making a blog while I'm half brain-dead from general sleepiness will turn out wonderfully.
Since I last posted some things with relevance to drag happened; I attended a drawing class this past Wednesday where I introduced myself using the masculine version of my name, "Li". This is the first time I've ever tried this, and I haven't tried it before because I still live with my parents and even have to still be chauffeured around by them. Up to this point I've mainly been trying to avoid "Your daughter Li..." occasions, which would turn out pretty awkwardly for me.
That and my school isn't the kind of place you can attend for three years, then walk in one day and say "I'd like to go by a manly version of my name now" without a similar outcome.
So yeah, it felt good to at least try it out. I'm sure many people care about my life, so I thought I'd share it.
IN OTHER NEWS, I thought I'd counter my first post, in which I dissed on womankind in general, with a post in which I list women I think are actually pretty badass.

Mother Teresa
The Virgin Mary
Mary (In Plain Sight)
Manamaraya (Soothsayer of Pontis)
Lisbeth (The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo)

Mother Teresa and the Virgin Mary I have respect for mostly out of cultural reasons. Mother Teresa, in particular, strikes me(even though I know little to nothing about her) as a powerfully loving woman. The kind of woman who got up in the morning, put food out for the stray cats, and spent her day at the local soup kitchen, and spent every minute of her day attempting to serve the Lord and make people's lives better, regardless of her own. Not because it was the "Christian" thing to do. But because she truly, deeply enjoyed it. You don't get "Christian" by telling people how to fix themselves, and you don't sit there and wait for God's hand to move your heart. You go out there and you start doing things, and the "Christianness" becomes a by-product. Mother Teresa was a monumental example of this, and she accomplished great things in her day despite being a woman. People took her seriously. They still take her seriously.

As for virgin Mary, well. She faced some pretty deep shit. Getting pregnant in her day by anyone other than your husband was a huge no-no, and if Joseph had been any less than a pretty damn cool guy, Mary would have been stoned to death. Not likely would have been, not probably would have been--she would be dead. And despite that risk, she didn't run off and hide somewhere, she didn't freak out and tell God to take his baby somewhere else. She faced certain death and being disowned by her family, which in those days, for a woman, pretty much meant you were gutter meat. And she didn't even end up in that position through irresponsibility or sleeping around. She "followed the book", she "played by the rules" and she ended up in a hugely unfair situation. But she didn't blame anyone for it, and she didn't get bitter about it. She went on faith and saw it through. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have been able to do that.

Mary from In Plain Sight, the tv show, is just a hardcore woman. Despite having hair the colour of sweetcorn, which in TV these days is usually the mark of horror movie fodder or whathaveyou, she goes forth and conquers while dealing with a seriously mucked up home life that goes beyond the idea of an impossible balancing act. Nothing in Mary's life is balanced. Her world is falling apart at the seams, and the only way she holds it together is by constantly slapping more and more duct-tape on it while dishing out scathing sarcasm and derogatory labels to her ditzy younger sister(horror movie fodder in a nutshell) and her impossible alcoholic mother(people who keep up with the series know that lately her mother is now attempting to stay off the alcohol, and things have improved somewhat.) Mary reminds me distinctly of Sil, my own character, who's pretty dysfunctional and kick-ass in her own ways. Both of them fuck up a lot, they hurt the people they care a lot, but at the end of the day they'll take a bullet to put down a bad guy(and they'd rather do that than apologize to said loved ones)and they'll do their best to fix said fuckups(preferably without apologizing, but maybe if there's no other way. Maybe.)

I gotta wrap this up, cause my popcorn's getting cold and I have homework to finish--GAH. THAT ESSAY. DUE THIS WEEK. FOUR PAGES. FFFFFF--so I'll excuse my hasty summaries of the last two by explaining that pretty much my only follower is a Scaly Bastard in California who throws a hissy fit if I ruin any literary or media experience for him ever by telling him ANYTHING ABOUT IT AT ALL.

Manamaraya somehow manages to be badass despite totally using her body to manipulate men whenever she can, having been bullied out of her job(in her world, basically commander of her entire country's military) by her husband, and desperately resorting to bringing in a soothsayer from the slums(also a MAN) to try and freak said husband into not running their city into the ground anymore. And she's STILL. AWESOME. I don't know how she does it, I really don't. And then later*SPOILER ALERT* she apparently, like, VIOLATES HER HUSBAND as one of her ongoing revenge schemes(not like really rape, I don't think Mana's one to give it to a guy in the ass, but still) among other awesome badassery.
So yeah.
You can read part one here: http://manamaraya.deviantart.com/gallery/12560041#/d2ltp52
The author is an amateur writer on her own part, but it's still pretty damn good. Some misplaced commas, and she has a habit of inserting "--" in places that throw off the flow, but she's extremely open to critique, so she's always improving.

Aaaand Lisbeth. She's just badass in all forms. She may be even closer to Sil than Mary. I can't really say much, because of aforementioned Scaly Bastard, but this is a heroine that truly kicks ass. I don't mean like that one time in the movie where she pulls a few fancy moves and puts down a few henchmen and still ends up needing to get saved by Mr. Man at the end. I mean Lisbeth will stare down the barrel at you and two seconds later your eyeball is hanging out of its socket and your gun is up your ass, and she's carving Swedish insults into your back with her pocketknife. That is the kind of kickassery we are dealing with when it comes to Lisbeth.
THAT DOESN'T ACTUALLY HAPPEN, MEK, I JUST PULLED IT OUT OF MY ASS AS AN EXAMPLE. SO THERE.
NOW I WILL SAY SOMETHING THAT DID ACTUALLY HAPPEN SO YOU CAN SKIP IT.
SPOILER SPOILER SPOILER SPOILER
And what I really love most about Lisbeth is that SHE'S the one who's always saving the GUY. Or herself. The only time he ever had to "save" her was after she'd already dealt with the bad guys(WITH AN AXE. AFTER CRAWLING OUT OF A GRAVE. THAT SHE SPENT THE NIGHT IN. AFTER GETTING SHOT IN THE STOMACH. AND PUNCHED IN THE FACE A LOT.)and was seriously about an inch from death.
I have such a serious mancrush on this woman. Like you don't even.

Women can't do shit.

Feminism is a GOOD thing.
Yeah, this is gonna be one of THOSE blogs. And if you're that kind of guy who looks at the word feminism, rolls his eyes, and kicks off, then go ahead and piss off, bitch. Either you've got a problem with a woman bringing up a subject you aren't comfortable with or you're too ignorant to bother understanding the actual definition of feminism first and buy into the social stereotype that half of it is lesbians, another part is ugly women who just hate men, and gall knows what you think the rest of it is.

Honestly, I've been wanting to do this blog for a while. Not just on stuff like gender equality, but about BEING a teenage drag king. And tonight I finally decided to do it, after watching The Social Network.
The Social Network is a movie based on the book Accidental Billionaires, which tells the story of the creators of facebook, a couple of college kids. I'm going to bypass the whole plot, which you can google at your convenience anyway, and tell you what it was in the movie that inspired me.
The women are treated like pointless shit.
Now, it's a true story. I realize this. I realize it's how they actually acted in real life.
What bothers me, and has bothered me for some time, is that women act that way in those situations because they're expected to. Because society tells them that's how women in those situations act.

For those of you still reading, I will define it for you. Just in case you can't be bothered to go look it up yourself.
fem·i·nism   
[fem-uh-niz-uhm] Show IPA
–noun
1.
the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.

I will now define feminist.
feminist (ˈfɛmɪnɪst)

— n
1. a person who advocates equal rights for women

These are all as defined by dictionary.com, a very useful internet resource.
I will now provide the definitions of the same words as found on urbandictionary.com, which to my understanding is the most or one of the most popular diction sites of MY generation. Meaning it's used by we young people. You know, those of us most easily influenced by our society's most powerful modes of entertainment: television, movies, music, and, dwindling in strength though it may be, I'll go ahead and tack literature on that list.

1. feminist
someone who believes the radical notion that women are people.

2. feminist
A woman (or man?) who wants equal rights for both sexes. However, in order to truly achieve EQUAL rights, chivalry (paying the bill, leaving the door open, etc...) must be banished from society as well as all those old archaic rules about women. So, to all you feminists who want equal rights, AND special treatment, I say, pick one or the other damn it.

4. Feminism
A movement that supports equal opportunities for men and women and asserts that women are entitled to the same political, social, and intellectual rights as men. As a cultural and literary movement, feminism seeks to challenge historically male-centred representations of women and identify a sovereign tradition of female cultural and literary production.

These are definitions posted by us young people, FOR us young people, AS we young people understand them.
What I WILL say for urbandictionary is that the definitions of feminism rang true, and many of them were actually long--the one see here is the shortest original post(there was another shorter one, but that was cited as being from the Merriam-Webster dictionary.)
However, take care to notice the first post on feminist.
feminist
someone who believes the radical notion that women are people.
Why is this one the first?
I don't know how this works on urbandictionary. Is there a ranking system where definitions get voted up or down? Is it based on first-come-first-served? I don't know. Either way, either it's rated highest because people think it's funny or because that's the first definition anyone thought of to post.

Let me put it simply for you, this is a bad thing.

Now I'm going to tie in what I said earlier about movies, music, and all that jazz affecting us young people.
You know what I see when I watch movies? When I read books? What I hear when I listen to music?
Women can't do shit.
Name your favourite protagonist off the top of your head, or at least your favourite actor who's played your favourite protagonists. Here's mine:

Spider Jerusalem
Batman
Hughe Jackman
Johnny Depp

Now name your favourite bands and or singers. Here's mine:

Tom Waits
30 Seconds to Mars
Smashing Pumpkins
Shinedown

And there's the greats. Maybe I don't love them, maybe I'm another Young Person who doesn't Appreciate Good Music. But here they are:
The Beatles
Elvis Presley
Led Zeppelin
ACDC
The Rolling Stones
That's just some of them. What do they all have in common?
The protagonists are men. The singers and the lead singers of these bands--hell I'm pretty sure everyone in those bands--are all male.
What's the great movies of the year?
Inception. Avatar(visually, the story was shit, but the visuals deserve a mention.) How To Train Your Dragon. The Social Network. TRON: Legacy. To name a few, all of which I've seen, and you know what all these movies have in common?
They are good movies. They have (with the exception of Avatar and Tron) good writing, good characters, and a strong story.
You know what else they have in common?
They are all male leads.

What's the last good movie you watched--the last good movie you watched that had EVERYTHING, compelling, ORIGINAL story, powerful characters, great writing, ideas that you took seriously--that had a female lead GO GO GO YOU HAVE THE NEXT TEN SECONDS--
You can't answer that question in ten seconds can you? Okay, last good movie with a MALE--
Inception.
See how easy that was? Here's why it was so hard before--not because Hollywood doesn't give women those roles. It's not Hollywood's fault. It's YOUR fault. It's the AUDIENCE'S FAULT. Why? Because Hollywood is a mere ATTENTION WHORE. It only GIVES what it KNOWS you will TAKE. What you will devour greedily with your needs for wish-fulfillment, for fantasy-appeal, for sexual objectification, for socially acceptable.

You know what makes me sad? I like fast car movies. I like gangster movies. I like people I can relate to in those movies, or at least seriously admire. And I get them. What I don't get is WOMEN in those movies that I can relate to or seriously admire.
Well, what do you expect? They're MEN'S movies.
Fuck you. They're not MEN'S movies. They aren't boy flicks. They're MY flicks too, because this is MY country too, this is MY society too, and I expect some galldamn RESPECT in the fast-car-movie and gangster-movie industry. Because if I'm going to give you my money, the least you could do is give me something BACK for it.
Well that's just tough luck. You aren't going to get that sort of thing--women are in those movies to look hot and serve as finish line prizes. In those types of movies, you just aren't going to see the hot sexy chick win the race and get to be the badass lead.
That ISN'T what I want.
Wait...what?
I don't want to see the hot slut take the wheel. I don't care about her. I'm not asking for yet ANOTHER form of objectification, if you put what society deems as a "hot chick" in the driver's seat, you're going to get another Transformer's heroine, except she's trying to pull off a lead role.
...Where are you going with this?
Where I'm going is I'm not bashing on men. Yeah, it's a man's world, I'll say that much and you can't deny it. I mean hell, women STILL aren't equal, not even on paper or legally--we STILL don't get equal pay.
I'm bashing on the women.
You take their shit and you swallow it with a smile. You get on your knees, you give him a blowjob, and you tell yourself it's sexy. It's not sexy. It's sexy to HIM. You see them objectify you in a movies, and either you tell your daughter not to watch it or you punch your boyfriend for saying it's hot. You don't ACTUALLY DO ANYTHING. Because YOU DON'T CARE. Because if you EVER had a problem with it, you were called a feminist bitch, or told to "God, loosen up, don't be such a tightass" or were given some such similar instruction in the form of an offhand phrase that was probably mildly offensive. And you TOOK IT. And now you BELIEVE IT'S OKAY.
Men rule the world, but it's because YOU LET THEM. You let the millionaire snuff crack off your ten-pounds-underweight ribcage, you striptease on the coffee table during highschool/college parties, you show your breasts at spring break, you give him head in his car. And you do it now because you think you enjoy it. You did it the first time because That Guy told you you'd enjoy it, or it'd be hot, or because your girl friend told you it would be, and she would know, because she knows what guys want. It's about what guys want. Movies are about what guys want. Music is about what guys want. TV is vastly about what guys want. The internet is vastly about what guys want.
...are you going to get around to the part about what you WANT out of all this?
Yeah. I want a fast-car movie about two women who take care of themselves, watch out for their bros, and have hot guys stripteasing on their cars who will ultimately serve no purpose to the plot other than to be sexy. I want a gangster movies about a group of women who shoot up the bank and go to a bar where they're entertained by hot stripper guys who will never be seen again throughout the rest of the movie. I want a woman dragon rider, I want a woman warrior, I want a woman I CAN TAKE SERIOUSLY. I want a woman EVERYONE CAN TAKE SERIOUSLY.
Everyone remembers the Batman, the Superman, the Spiderman movies. Not because they had great actors. Really, in my opinion, the only superhero movies that have had "great" actors would be the X-men movies(Hughe Jackman) and the Batman movies(Christian Bale). Because people take the MEN seriously.
How many people even KNOW there is a Catwoman movie? Aside from horny comic geeks and the occasional movie enthusiast?
Do you know why that isn't a good movie? The actress isn't too bad. Her male lead isn't too bad. But the story? The character?
THEY WEREN'T TAKEN SERIOUSLY.
They turned catwoman into a rooftop-leaping stripper. Her outfits are ridiculous. They provide absolutely no protection, and they have gaps in vital places--like her CHEST, and her STOMACH. You know, places you'd want to protect MOST in a fight? From things like guns? So yes, the obvious purpose is just to make her look hot.
Excuse me? Why don't I get my superhero men running around shirtless? I get maybe one scene of them per movie topless while they're changing or something. One. One scene. Comic geeks, or anyone who may randomly download Catwoman off the internet(probably on accident)gets most of the movie to eye her out in prostitute getup.
What about the spandex, you may ask. Well, Superman was invulnerable, and besides, you don't really SEE anything in that. Batman ended up in super-reinforced-nylon or something like that with bits of actual armour. Ironman goes without saying. And Spiderman? I don't even know, I think I was nodding off in that part. Or maybe I just didn't care.
And as for the STORY of Catwoman? Well, Batman had to deal with FEAR ITSELF. In Batman Begins of 2005, his archnemesis uses fear to control people, basically. Superman--the traditional Lex Luthor+misc bad guy deal. Spiderman--the Goblin, the Hobgoblin, Sandman, Venom, all supervillains, along with serious personal issues in his life. Ironman had to deal with enemies of his company--the biggest of which turned out to be his closest confidant in the business who ultimately betrayed him.
Catwoman? She had a makeup company trying to kill her. Because the makeup secretly ate faces in like 10% of trials or something and was still going on the market.
FUCKING. MAKEUP. That was Catwoman's antagonist.
You know what most people don't even know? Catwoman's not a hero. First and foremost, she's a thief. She steals stuff, and it's COOL that she gets away with it because SHE GETS AWAY WITH IT DESPITE BATMAN. Yeah. Seeing the movie, you wouldn't even know that she was associated with Batman, would you? Because they turned it into a completely irrelevant CHICK FLICK.

So what do I want?
I'm fucking DRAG KING. I want women heroes who are ACTUALLY HEROES, not just action sluts who clench big guns between their thighs. I want women who take care of themselves, ACTUALLY TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES, then go out to bars and have hot guys dancing on their laps. I want MANLY WOMEN and FEMININE MEN.
I want FUCKING EQUALITY.
And if the market won't provide it, I'll put it in the market my own damn self.
Watch me as I try to change my world. Maybe women CAN'T do shit.
So I guess I'll just have to be something more.